Tuesday, November 5, 2013

A Mirror

People in our lives often act as a mirror of ourselves and especially the one we are closest to like family members and friends, even people we don't really like. The person who reflects us the most is the one we're in a relationship with.

The qualities we like in other people are the ones we posses, while if we're too critical of someone it's often because it's something we don't like about ourselves either. Because we wouldn't notice it or it wouldn't bother us so much.

I've noticed I tend to be attracted to similar guys. Most people have his or her type I think. I usually get too excited in the beginning but as I get burned later I'm scared to try again. I' ll do same mistakes and later say I'll never do it again only to find repeating myself. Never say never, right?

I think an ideal would be a little different from us but not too different. Like if you're too similar you'd get into fights but if you're too different you'd have nothing in common. It's good to have similar goals, for example starting a family is good, or to be with someone that you can be yourself with without changing too much.

It's been said that a partner can help you with unresolved issues you might have even from childhood which you can later bring into relationship. Sometimes it can cause a lot of trouble or anger and it can hurt the one we love. It's not easy to understand that the other person is actually in pain but if we try to see that it's easier to feel compassion.

It takes a lot of commitment and awareness for a couple to come together and try again. Sometimes it's difficult to understand that we're not loving ourselves when we're mad and not that we don't love the other person. Even if you end a relationship it's likely you will experience similar things with your next partner.

So it's easy to see a relationship can be a mirror to see things we cannot see by ourselves yet. Or if you are in between relationships it might be a good opportunity to create more awareness so you can have a successful relationship soon.

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